I didn’t sleep the whole day yesterday because I was afraid I couldn’t wake up on time. Furthermore there was a heavy downpour at about three in the morning, I couldn’t possibly sleep with all the thunders & lightning going on. I had a job interview @ RSH limited at 11.30am and I just didn’t want to be late. Amazingly I came on time and the interview was alright I guess. Thank God Hidayah accompanied me. I couldn’t imagine if I went there alone, I would feel like a square peg in a round hole!
We decided a week before to have a little photo-taking session for her blog shop that she's creating. (I’ll definitely share with you all once it is official!) Apparently this girl was very fussy about how her photos should look like and stuffs, so we took some time to think of a place that’s suitable according to her preference. It was hilarious that she had to bring around her humongous pink adidas bag around filled with all the clothes that she wanted to sell. (See my twitpic!) But that’s better because she actually contemplated bringing a LUGGAGE! We went around One Fullerton to take photos and it was amusing to see her so whiny about changing outfits every 5 to 10mins! It was HER idea anyway. I was just her temporary photographer. Ah, another good day, even though I had to leave as early as 8pm so that my mom wouldn’t be pissed! Ugh, it’s so pathetic to be home too soon, isn’t it? Usually I would be home by mid night or after. I was shagged like hell indeed, I didn’t know my wedges can hurt my toes like mad!
I just wanted to try this look for fun. I thought the ruffles on the dress would be cute to match with mary janes and grey socks. I like to keep it simple. What do ya'll think?;)
H: "Eh muke kau slalu vogue seh"
Me: "???????????????????"
H: "Aku pun nak try?"
and her 'vogue' face turned out like this..............
-_- HAHAHAHHAAHA FAIL. WE LAUGHED LIKE CRAZY. STOP IT PLEASE HID:P
She's too cute i swear.
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“What a phony bitch”
“She’s so fake!”
“I hate two faced people. It’s so hard to decide which face to slap first”
Familiar with these phrases? What I’m getting at, is being two faced is a social phenomenon I’m sure we all adhere to. It comes with a variety of perceptions depending on each individual. To me, being two-faced simply means you act differently around different people. I know I do it. I don’t think I consciously do it, it’s more the persona you slip into when you become comfortable with people, you begin to learn more about their personality, what quirks and jokes they enjoy, and you bend towards that. You act more in that way to please them, and to enjoy yourself more. Not a bad thing, just how we work as humans.
It can also mean pretending to like person x, then complaining about person x to person z. These are kind of people you wish never existed in our society, but they do. They are called Two Faced Back Stabbers (TFBS). I bet almost everybody has gone through that eh? I’ve heard a hell lot of stories. One minute they say the nicest stuffs about you, and behind your back they say the opposite, whilst simultaneously pretending to be your good/best friend. Same old nonsense. And you listen to these people spread their bile and wonder what do they say about you. Then it will become like a chain reaction of hate, and instead of paying no mind to the childish bullshit that people display of themselves, some of us enter this nonsense and continue the cycle until the middle-man picks a side. It’s really just a bunch of crap at the end of the day.
Well whooptie doo. That’s life. People get hurt. And I don’t mean stupid shit like “She’s a bitch” or “All kinds of suck.” I’m talking about real issues . If people spent time writing thoughtful messages to express their concerns, then the gossip would be moot and people can move on. It’s the gossip and the lies that suck. Aren’t you guys tired already? Why can’t we all live in a loving world where everybody appreciates everyone? I’m no saint. I am not innocent of bitchery. I gossip too. But not to the extent that I used to because of how lame it all is. I know my limits.
It’s normal that we all encounter these TFBS at some point in our lives, so my advice?
Pay no mind to the cowards who won’t say anything to your face, let them talk behind your back while you are two steps ahead of them. Everybody will keep talking about you and you can’t control that. What you can control is how you respond to the situation. Let karma do her thing for you! Ignore their antics and never let them get you down. Chin up, just be confident of who you are.
Secondly, avoid the duplicitous person that has been talking negatively about you. If you have to spend time a lot with these people, set clear boundaries concerning what kind of conversation you are willing to listen to. If the TFBS individual tries to gossip about other people, politely tell them that that kind of talk doesn’t interest you. Do not offer any opinions of your own. They might be a little offended when you say that, but trust me sooner or later they will realise what a good friend you are.
Thirdly, you always have the option of confrontation; TFBS people who feel the need to act that way are usually cowards and can be scared off by just telling them that you know what they’re doing. Of course they will deny but it will stop them for some time. And remember to Be assertive rather than aggressive when confronting TFBS because being hostile and violent will never solve any problem!
Last but not least, forgive these people. Many of them do not mean to hurt you with words or actions they make. Sometimes they're just expressing their thoughts/feelings but we took it the wrong way. Look at their good points too, don’t always point out their flaws. Hey, we have to accept that we are all hypocrites to some degree. Be forgiving even towards those who are genuinely bad-natured. Holding a grudge is allowing the TFBS person to become a personal issue for you, and that’s emotionally unhealthy! Be civil and NEVER be a hater!
Most importantly, before judging someone as “two-faced” or “TFBS” in my dictionary, please take a good look at yourself and make sure you’re not the same too ;)
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