1. Trust is essential.
Being truthful is key to establishing trust in relationships of any type. If you give your word to do something, you must follow through. The ways in which trust can be broken are many, from 'dramatic' ways such as cheating or stealing, to the more subtle ways, lying about silly things. No relationship can survive without trust,which initially is how a relationships starts, and it is through the development of trust that relationships grow.
2. Communication in any relationship is vital.
As much as you might think those feelings are too boring to share or it’s “overrated”, they remain just as important to share. Never bottle up your feelings as it will make things worse! Learn to listen to each other especially when you have any problems, let your partner know and he/she will definitely try to help you. Without communicating, we will never really get to know them, what their hopes and dreams are, how they feel, what they want. Couples will not have deeper understanding of each other. It is also a form of trust, we are trusting them with our feelings, in the hopes they will respect them and not use the knowledge against us.
3. Compromise.
A good relationship is built on compromise and a great deal of give and take on both sides. Offer a win-win situation. Too many people I know feel that compromise takes away from who they are as an individual, or is a sign of weakness. But it is nothing like that if you do it with complete honesty, good intentions, mutual respect and agreement.
4. Ego
Nothing will kill a relationship more quickly than ego. Couples often are not willing to compromise with their ego and would like to have his/her own way. In case of an argument, they would not like to accept the fact that they are at fault. My advice; Try to resist the temptation to defend yourself. Because when you defend yourself in an argument, it also means that you’ve stopped listening to the other person. If your partner tells you that they don’t like the way you’ve been acting lately, why not hear them out instead of defending yourself? It will almost always create a MUCH better outcome.
5. They say money can't buy love, but it CAN tear a relationship apart.
This is quite a huge issue for most couples I know.
Guys: be a gentlemen and don’t always expect the girls to pay for you. I have girlfriends who told me they always have to pay for the food/movies/etc. instead of the boyfriends, and they really don’t like it! Major turn-off, guys! Girls: don’t always make the guys pay for everything. Unless he is filthy rich, you need to learn how to save up for you and your bf’s expenses because your bf has other things to pay for such as his bills etc.
6. Don’t listen to anyone else but your heart and mind.
Honestly I have a lot of friends who always want us (me and my bf) to break-up because they think I’m much happier without him but they don’t know how much fun we both have together as a couple! They can advise when things are not going well with your partner but it’s not compulsory for you to heed their advices. Breaking up is the last option when everything else does not work out. Don’t let anyone ever tell you what you can make of your life, or how to live it, in the end, it’s your life and you have to live with your own decisions!
7. Action speaks louder than words.
the way you act is important. Words are secondary. If your partner does not accept certain behaviour of yours and you carry on as before, then nothing will change and the relationship cannot be saved even by saying that you are going to change is not enough. You have to show that you are changing.
8. Be optimistic than pessimistic.
Throw away your negative thoughts. No matter how many times you both argue, don’t always point out your partner’s flaws. Always think of the good points and if you don’t like any of his/her particular actions, just let your partner know! I know girls have a lot of insecurities and it’s really important to let your boyfriend know. Neither of you are perfect, and the quirks you both have are here to stay.
9. Don’t take him/her for granted.
A lot of times, most people don’t realize that they’re taking their partners for granted especially those who spend a lot of time together. Don’t just assume your partner is always there to make your life easier and he/she is not going to dump you. Show appreciation when your partners do something nice even the smallest things. Mind your manners. Learn to respect each other. Don’t forget to remind your partner how much you love him/her!
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Okay, I didn’t extract anything from other website, this is originally from yours truly. I hope this post is helpful. Anyway, I’m talking about relationships in this week’s random list because……it’s me and my bf’s 17th monthsary today!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
xoxo!
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