Last monday, I visited my ex-schoolmates at RP since there was no work for me. I missed them! We didn’t do much catching up with our lives; we were just enjoying each other’s company like we always do. Just imagine if the three of us - Me, Hidayah and Hapheez- were in the same class, no doubt I would look forward to school and we could just be the best of friends ever!
The meet-up with my RP divas last week @ Orchard after my work was great! I really couldn't remember when was the last time I went out with a group of all girls- there were like 7 of us in total. They reminded me a lot about my usuals (Hmmm, I wonder where they are now?). We went to 313@Somerset’s Starbucks to just chill out since everybody’s so tired after their shopping. Catching up with one another’s lives, listening to their own family problems and where they came from made me think of how blessed I am. ‘Spoilt’ was what they called me and i kept denying. When one of them started listing out what I got from my parents, I just looked down feeling guilty but all I could say in my heart was Alhamdullilah because whatever my parents gave me and what I own now, is really not theirs nor mine. Everything belongs to Allah s.w.t. so all praises be to Him.
When the topic moved on to our love lives, everybody took turns to share about how they met their boyfriends and their journey throughout. I didn’t talk a lot about my love life. Not that I have nothing to share; I just prefer to be the listener than the story teller, like always:)
“Let me ask you girls something, do we need actually need an official statement to be in a relationship?” Firah, the outspoken one, asked the group. “Like, the sentence ‘will you be my girlfriend?’ you know that kind of thing?”
I was so familiar with this question as I've asked myself a lot of times. They exchanged their opinions until Firah came into a conclusion, “So there MUST be an official statement, if not you won’t know where you stand in someone’s lives.”
Personally, I don’t like the idea of becoming official and having a status. That’s not important to me and I just don’t believe in that anymore. I learned that, it’s about developing genuine feelings, not for what they have to offer, but for who they are in the past and the present. It’s about communicating with each other to gain trust along with understanding and being forgiving especially when situations are at their worst. It’s never about blaming the significant other for not treating you the way you want to be treated. It is how hard they try to keep you in their lives and loving them wholeheartedly without expecting anything in return.We don't need a 'Single' or 'In a relationship' status, our hearts will determine all. xx
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